Ecstasy
Good morning bloggieeeee :*****
I'm sorry for being straight forward, I bet a lot of girls feel the same, and I'm not ashamed to admit it, yes I do wanna get married, frankly it's I NEED to get married, I think it's the cold weather (if you know what I mean), actually it's not just in the cold weather, basically I'm kinda, well yani…hmmmmm errrrr kinda yani need *COUGH* sex…most of the time..*GULP*
I'm craving it now, just like men, when I first wake up, is it normal…?
Believe me I'm not hitting on anybody, and I'm not saying this to get the guys attention…if I wanted men, I can get them from anywhere….and it's better then guys that are bloggers cuz I know who this person is in the flesh, but it's not that…
It's not just a boyfriend and that's it, I want a person 24/7 with me…at least the first 1-2 years, no kids….I mean if we weren't living in Kuwait, it might be easier to live with a bf, but I'm muslim and Kuwaiti, and it's not right, and I adore my father and have respect for my family, my family trust me, it's so hard, it makes me cry…
I mean you go out with the bf and then what?? You come back home to an empty bedroom…feeling lonely…and personally I feel guilt cuz I love my father and hate to come through the door and kiss him on the head after making love with a man in haram….
I don't wanna get married for having babies or money, I just don’t wanna sleep lonely at night…
I don’t know, am I craving sex cuz I'm not getting any, or it's cuz I am in nature "horny"…? Walla I'm tired and nobody knows only my best friend and my cousin (and now you guys), which they think it's cuz I'm born this way and it's not cuz I'm not getting any.
If only we could choose our own husbands like the men do instead of waiting for the right one or waiting for this "boyfriend" to keep his promise and make me a decent woman…
I strongly approve of marriage from a person I know instead of an arranged marriage, but I don't want this person to say: "Oh lets wait for a while, or a year."
Come on!!
I mean 1-2 months is good enough for me to get to know a person which is 15% probably, for me that's ok, at least better then an arranged marriage that you sit with the guy only twice than marry him…
Even if you know a person for a long time, you still discover new things after the marriage…but hey…that's life…gotta take risks, if you have the basic important things love, respect, understanding, caring, sense of humor, good wild passionate sex…than everything else yihoon…
But don't lie to the girls and say you need more than that…to me these men are lying, especially if you are settled financially and mentally…
Whatever….
It's a long tiring subject…
It's so complex for us single girls here…
When I travel with my family, hotels and room service turn me on LOOOOOOOOL
Please don’t get me wrong and I'm sorry for being honest but that’s the truth and I don’t mind thinking out loud.
That’s what I want…Ecstasy.
P.S.
I have being saving this post for a week now, never in my wildest dreams thought of sharing this, but I'm open minded, and think it's (to me at least) a perfectly sane topic…
Please don't judge me, take me the wrong way…please.
posted by Puppylove @ 11:06 AM
19 Comments:
One of the best posts i read. I love it when people especially girls talk so openly. Anyway.......
What ur saying is totally natural. Waking up, wanting to be with someone, sex or make love or whatever u wanna call it. All natural. But what u dont know is that this will get u into trouble. You want to get married to be with someone who will fill up that emptiness u feel. That is totally wrong. You might ge tmarried and with time realize he doesnt do it, maybe for a year or two, then what? ur stuck! the way i see it, u meet someone who fills ur emptiness and u dont need to share a room or a house for him to do that and when u feel he is the one, that is when u think of marriage.
I hate those old ways of thinking "love comes later". It doesnt! Love comes first then the materialistic shit comes later.
And dont get me wrong when I say this, if u think u r old enough to get married, then u shud be old enough to make ur own decisions without having to worry about ur parents. What i mean is this..... you feel like having a boyfriend and have sex, then do it! Your parents will never like the idea of u having sex even when married so do it if u want with someone u feel comfortable with and u can trust. And that doesnt make u low, and if anyone says that, they can kiss my ass! All guys die for sex once they hit puberty and most of them get it, they dont wait for marriage to get it; i dont see why girls cant be the same. The first time i had sex was 17 and i intend to say that to my future wife, if i ever get married. And if she had sex before me, then she had sex before me, big deal. More experience ;)
Sorry for the long comment. My point is that dont take a decision whose effects will last forever to satisfy a temporary urge. Maybe if u satisfy this urge, u wont want to get married anymore. People get married to have kids and build a family, not to have sex.
You are a cool girl, and if u do that, u will end up with some asshole who will sleep with u for a few years then get bored. I have seen it happen. Dont want to see it happen to u:)
Loved the post! Sorry for talking too much :)
well , i guess thats not only your problem its almost every girls problem especially in your age or older ... which is the peak of craving sex.. anyway
there is nothing else u can do but waiting "given that u r muslim and kuwaiti 3ala goltich"
but if there is any other option
well u can either masturbate
or avoid aphrodisiac food like :-
Herbs in general
DEats "tamur"
ASparagus
Oyster meat
Pinapple
Basil
Cinammon
Garlic
Rosemary
or the 3rd solution which is not favored among other options is going out and make out quietly and peacfully
girl you have waited this long then if no one propose to u then u will never do it :P
joking
ya3ny min al kher , moshkiltich sa3ba sara7a , and it become more complicated in Winter :)
and good luck with your adventure :P
I skimmed through your post quick, and I do not think you are straight forward as you claim, because you keep apologizing and asking people not to get the wrong impression of you, when you say things you believe, you have to say them with conviction and without any regret.
Besides that ma 3endch salfa, go drink hot chocolate.
Join the club honey!
Fonzy
Glad u liked the post...and dont be sorry 4 the long comments, i like long comments :)
And yes i am very much open..
I know what u mean about marrying just for sex, i didnt mean just sex, i meant is i NEED sex, and i do want children, but i dont feel the motherly instincts yet, dunno why, maybe later in the marriage, and i rather marry someone i know and love, then the sex will be much better also, and OMG u think exactly like me, i do think that love should come first and GOOD sex happens to help bring it also..
And ur true, parents dont want u 2 have sex if ur married or not, but still there are times in the day or night i need it, and i cant leave home, thats what im saying, a boyfriend here in kuwait with a strict family aint happening..
Herbal tea
Who r u? LOOOOOL
Thanks 4 the advice...
I love all kinds of food, and i think thats the problem, cuz they make me wanna get laid!! LOOOOOL
But as i said, i need it sometimes at certain times that i cant leave the house, like early mornings...
I NEED TO BE CUDDLED!!! LOOOOOL
Oh and masturbate till when inshallah?? That makes me cry...
Purg
Shakhbareeeeeee
wenik?? How r ya?
Hot coco?? sounds nice and sexy...
SEE...that makes me wanna have sex too LOOOOOOOOOOOL
Not a good advice...
I meant being sorry for those strict bloggers, or some pervet bloggers so i wont get come on emails..
Miya
LOOOOL
Walla elhalah kaseefah!!!
marriage is over rated.. im gonna post somethin regarding this matter soon.. :) its just the winter thats makin you feel this way.. you need some warmth girl.. a hot shower perhaps :)
then go drink gallons of it.
im your sexual advisor ...
itha sij mallaitay min masturbation ,
there are some other tricks ...
hehe so if u feel like u need it, then get some :)
الله يرزقج انشاءالله
كل شي نصيب
good luck
Dr. Lost
U think? a hot shower...? I dont think so, and i mentioned not only in the winter...
Purg
LOOOOOL
Herbal Tea
First of all i dont masturbate...thats why i said it makes me cry cuz i know it will...
Second, what other tricks...??
Wanasa...LOOOOOOOOOOL
Fonz
Ishloooooooooooooooon?? Thats the problem, i dont want it randomly and i want it halal so i can sleep peacefully at night..
Kila ma6goog
Allah yisma3 minek, maskoooor waid, walla ent habeeb....
oh .... i cant say them in public , and free of charge .. No no..but those tricks work...
anyway i hope since u posted and shared this subject ... khalas your fire is down i guess ... and u feel better ..
Herbal
Nooooo LOOOOOOOOOL not yet!!!
even when u r at office ??
Damn , i should prescribe the following strategy
"flying fish trick"
2 times a day , b4/after you sleep ..
and during daytime u should stick to
"double Espresso shot"
and ill mail the tools with the manual ...
30$ , local shipping free of charge
but tell me what color do u prefer ??
you just need to control your hormones :p i know it aint easy.. but there's always a way :)
ur body requires it, ur mind needs it, and u lust for it.... sounds halal to me :P
room service turn you on ... huh!!
can we share this in our podcast ??!?!
hehehehe
ali
LOOOOOOOOOOL
i had know idea ppl are still reading this post...
share it how?
Hi there
I didn’t read the other comments so I’ll just say my piece. First, I do admire you openness and courage for choosing such topic. I think it is normal feelings that you crave, since you are a human being.
Our cultural is under lots of pressure to sustain itself, modernization is misunderstood, and western TV shows (which I love by the way) show us that it is OK to sleep around, its ok to be bisexual or gay or lesbian. This is them, not us, we are simply different! And what works for them does not necessary work for us. When some one goes sleeping around is simply a habit that is not part of our cultural or religion, and it should never be.
I do admire your respect to your family and I respect the fact that you do not want to disappoint them and i think you are on the right track with that. Here is what I think:
1) You are not alone: as you can see lots of people are in the same situation, you are not alone.
2) Know what you want: you need to know what you want, think with your mind not with your heart. Put love a side for a moment and think about what your future husband should give you, example, respect, patience, faithfulness, kindness, fear of Allah, well mannered…etc.
3) Act accordingly: No matter what you seek, you should act accordingly, if you like a party animal, your best bet is to go to parties to find him! how you project yourself is what make you attractive, but make sure you attract the right man for you.
4) Don’t cross the line: you are an open person but it does not mean you’re cheap, if some one wants to know you, they should respect themselves and not cross the line with you, and they should respect you. Getting to know somebody is one thing, sleeping with him is completely a different thing!
5) Arranged marriage is OK: once you know what you want, you will know what to look for in a man, you know what to ask for. Arrange marriage is ok as long as you take your time to make you decision, if you need 2 months to get to know the guy better so be it, talk to him for 2 months or having come by your house with the blessing of your family. You will be guilt free and you will have clear evaluation criteria that are not distorted by passion. And believe me, if some thing is built on the right bases it will definitely last (as least in most cases). And yes I do believe that love will come.
Sorry for the long comments, but I think you raise a serious question and you deserve a serious answer.
Note: you are right, please take 2 years childfree before you have a baby, trust me I know
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