Molested by an Uncle

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Some of you out there are wondering: "What's up with Puppylove and these sensitive issues these days?"

Well, I do in fact need your help guys on this riddle, I want to help one of my best friends but it's complicated.

My friend was molested by her uncle when she was 10 years old till about 13 years old, it didn't happen very often, but a few times, he would wake her up at night (cuz they were all staying in their grandpa's house before everybody got married) and he would take her to his filthy room with porn videos shown on the TV, which she even mentioned to me that it was her first time to see 2 women with each other, and he only hit "second base", just kissing her and touching her body over her clothes, cuz she was so afraid and cried, so her crying made him stop.
And thank God she never saw him "finish his business" till the end.
She used to beg him not to come to her room also when the house was empty, or everybody was busy, she was so naïve thinking that she's gonna get pregnant from just kissing, he used to laugh at her….she was so disgusted….

Fortunately it stopped cuz everybody started to move from the "big house", but he still gave her some weird horny looks when seeing her at family gatherings, and that was around 1993.
After one year her uncle got married, and till this day he & his wife are struggling to have kids.
My friend says that this is a blessing from God so he won't molest his kids, bas his poor wife is such a wonderful woman, what's her punishment…maybe there isn't, and it's all God's test for patience.

Now my friend is exactly my age, she's a beautiful educated strong woman…she's not those people that you see on Oprah, that are psychos such as an alcoholic, or a drug addict or a cutter…just because she was molested.
And she's been serious with this certain guy for a year….and he is one of those good guys that adores & respects her, and loves to talk with her all day and tell each other every detail. Even his friends and I say that they are soooooooo compatible.

Now the problem is that he "of course" is not married, and lives with his brother and his wife and kids. They have 2 teenaged daughters and sons, and 2 youngsters, and she knows that he loves them and gives them gifts and money, and when they come over to his apartment, he doesn't like to say "no" to them, even if he's tired or sleepy.
The problem is that I've noticed she gets so jealous when he's with the girls, although he tells her everything, & chit chats with her about their school or their shopping trips with their mom and what they bought, and how much they beg him to get married cuz they wanna play with his kids, she just sits and complains about how long he was with them and gets mad.

So I wonder sometimes, is it cuz she was molested by her uncle, she's having bad thoughts about the person she's in love with? Or is it that ordinary jealousy that girls feel when her bf or husband gets too much attention from his girl relatives?
The catch to this riddle is that this guy has no sisters, his mother passed away, has very old aunts, and his girl cousins are all married and doesn't even see them cuz they have no family gatherings, so it's only him and his brother's little family.
So if he had sisters and his mother was alive, a person would know that she's having an average jealousy episode that most women have from the women around the significant other, or that she is just jealous from his nieces and can say that she does have a serious problem cuz she was molested.

But the problem is, he only has these 2 teenaged nieces that she's jealous from, so I don't know if it's just the nieces or relative women in general??
Get it??
I know it's confusing….

And I don't know how to help her, should I confront her, and tell her that her problem is cuz she was molested?? Not to mention that it's so difficult for me to bring this subject up.
Or I would tell her that it's ok to sometimes feel jealous from sisters, mothers, cousins and nieces…. I don’t know….

Guys what do think the problem is….can anybody help me on this one.



Thank you guys.